Baby Momma Drama

OK, here is the deal. As promised, though a bit late, the 1st in my series of posts about what's been going on in my life and where I stand now. I realize as much as I would like to blog often, I just have so much going on, my heart isn't always going to be in it.

Yahoo! 360° - NONNA'S NICK NACKS - Hearing the Big News, without my rose colored glasses:

Recently, I am involved in a similar situation… My son's mother and my cousin. It's disgusting but once someone referred to him as my "shadow-self," said all h managed to capture was my initial charm. They used to talk about how he was trying so hard to be me. Then he got jealous and being me became beating me. He stole from me, he had to have my son's mother. "I have alway wanted you," what he told her.

Last year around August, it had been brought to my attention that my son's mother and my cousin, someone whom I was very close to growing up, were seeing each other. This is not news to some of you. I do chat when I have a chance, but have found myself becoming increasingly distant in that respect too.

I shrugged it off and continued my life. I had just began dating since my last relationship ended four or five years prior to that time. I am over her. In my mind one man's trash is another man's gold. This true for both of them. I deal with my son's mother where the kids are concerned. Thinking back, she was important to my ecosystem. She gave me my son and I not so happily tied to her for like an eternity.

I really did not care, at the time anyway, as long as it didn't affect the kids. My son started to really distance himself from her. Everyone knows how much I love my son. I began to inquire as to why he didn't want to go "home." This was the week of Thanksgiving, when things blew up I mean. Before then, I noticed certain things that confirmed my suspicions, all the while keeping it to myself. Didn't want to alert the kids if they didn't already know. I just did not know how discretely the situation was being handled. My son brought to my attention the weekend prior to Thanksgiving he was really uncomfortable being over there. On that Monday, she wanted to fight. The gloves were off. I let her know I knew.

In her defense, she is grown and it's none of my business, none of their business and whoever told me needs to get a life and kiss her ass and a bunch of other bullshit. Dumb ass, starts making calls and cussing people out, pretty much randomly. Since no one had to tell me a thing, she was just making enemies.

I go over to her house to talk. End up running damage control. A "friend" of a "friend" was over there wanting to fight her. Everyone broke out when they saw me walk through the door. Hmmm! they said I had the look of death on my face.

Fast forward… OK, all the things said, all the things done. I am notoriously mean and I was the nice one. Hearing shit about her being afraid for her life. Hearing shit about him and his other cousin trying to push "special" drinks on her. She thought she was being set up to be raped. Still defending him. I told her I didn't want him around the kids. Can't trust him.

Her mother is convinced I am jealous or I just plain don't want to see her with anyone else. Why be jealous? I am turned on by ambitious women. Women who go out and get theirs. What am I going to do with a female that thinks it's acceptable to sit around and wait for a $46 check.

Then to find out she wasn't taking care of his school stuff at all. Missed all of his open houses, which took place between October and November. So I had to step up and be on his applications triple time. Most days I don't get home until just before he does.

She had one of the acronym entities involved with the protection of children pull my son out of class to question him. His counselor said he was present and that Lil' looked so uncomfortable. Neither the counselor nor his teacher had ever met her up until that point and stated so. My son told the lady that was questioning him, that he wanted to live with me.

Recently, she reached out to me and I had to tell her that I couldn't help and be the bad guy anymore. She tells everyone one little pieces of the story and has everyone at odds. In a nut shell, you mad your bed, lie in it.

In the midst of her stupidity, she lost her job several weeks ago. Which means there are likely a myriad of unnecessary battles ahead between me and her.